About me

Growing up, I never knew anything about ADHD; all I knew is that I’m “weird but nice”. I’ve always been driven by my questions. I can read a face, a pause, or a sigh, but if you get a haircut, I won’t notice. My hyperactivity shows up in my imagination, voice, face and fingertips; the rest of me moves in a dreamy atmosphere.

When I became a young adult, I couldn’t work out how to take care of myself (turns out my main executive function support strategy had been my mum). I dropped out of many things: mainstream society, the job market, and most of the universities in New Zealand. I was always learning nerdy ideas, but life skills like keeping a car on the road or buying shoes were a complete mystery.

Steffi Christie poetry performance

Thanks to the wonders of social conditioning, I assumed that I was morally flawed, not trying hard enough, or psychologically damaged - and that this was my fate. Luckily, through teaching and talking with others, I began to doubt common ideas around capability, ‘wanting it enough’, and trying harder. I found techniques that helped the people I was working with to be motivated and interested, and to get results.

When I found out about inattentive ADHD, it was like reading my life story. I cried. I was told by a psychiatrist that I’m too functional to have ADHD. So I went to the user-generated ADHD tips on the internet, tried out everything, and kept what worked. My anxiety and drifting became mostly manageable. As I learned to understand my own confusing inconsistency, I started on the long road to trusting myself.

I was diagnosed with ADHD four years ago. Medication helps me. But I believe that learning how to work with my brain and environment has had the biggest benefit. And I know that social change would help many of us even more, so that shame is replaced by support.

My creativity allows me to solve problems and generate meaningfulness. My systems thinking showed me how to set up my world so that it’s easier to do stuff. My hyperfocus speeds me along in research. My special interest in psychology meant that I’ve been able to coach myself. These are a few of the ADHD superpowers that have helped on my journey.

I’m still learning how to plan big projects, to do admin, to enjoy the long haul of working towards a goal. But I know that every strategy I invent to help myself may also help someone else, and this makes it interesting.

I’m becoming proud of my weirdness! My humour, my honesty, my ability to connect quickly with people, my un-common sense - these were precious tools for surviving the instability of my younger days. And now I use them to thrive in my life, and to help others on their neurodiversity self-discovery journeys.

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